It is extremely disappointing to see how many young girls who were raised by proper families, insist upon not wearing the scarf, and they technically 'sell' their bodies.It's amazing how they seem to reject the symbol of Hijab. It means so many things no one can deny. First of all, it signifies feminine beauty,religion,modesty,a strong personality, and a high level of faith. Secondly, it signifies that whomever wears it is a person who cares for Islam, struggles with rude remarks and a feeling of strangeness, doesn't mind showing their belief, and is on the right path. It signifies who we are. We are women. Girls. different from men. We show up everywhere with clothes covering our bodies, almost head to toe.Sometimes I wonder if the men in our society should thank us for being there to reveal our true identity, and spread the message of Islam.
What is really sad is that while we 'suffer' from this, there are other girls out there who don't seem to care of our striving to enter Jannah. I am so sad to see Muslim women not covered. Now I know that some people will be upset with me for saying that, but I just feel sad. This sadness grows whenever I pass a street with me being the only Hijabi there. When I do, it's usually women walking around with the scarf around their shoulders instead of on their head. They wear many different types of scarves. It has been my personal observation that some Muslim girls and women do not realize the significance of hijab. Hijab is Arabic for protection and cover. Some people put a lot effort into their Hijab, yet it serves no purpose. I am referring to the pointless Hijab that some girls wear.
The first pointless Hijab is referred to as the headband Hijab. It is a band of fabric approximately 4 inches wide. It covers the back of the head and allows all the hair to be exposed. It doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but at least it comes in handy in case of an unexpected tennis match.
The second pointless Hijab is the dupetta, also known as the Saran wrap Hijab. It covers all the hair, but it is totally transparent. Again it doesn't serve much in terms of modesty, but it keeps the hair nice and fresh.
The third type of Hijab is known as the Mickey Mouse Hijab. It is when a girl wears a black scarf and tucks it behind her ear, so that her ears stick out.
We now move to my "favorites":
The yo-yo Hijabs. The first yo-yo Hijab, also known as the Benazir Bhutto hijab, is the scarf that keeps falling down and needs to be constantly pulled back up....up, down, up, down, just like a yo-yo.
The second yo-yo Hijab is also referred to as the convertible Hijab. This type of Hijab is predominant at any type of social event, i.e. an Aqeeqah, Bismillah party, Ameen party, wedding, etc. This is when an Imam or Qari' comes up to the microphone and starts to recite Qur'an. At this point, all the convertible Hijabs come up...until he says "Sadaqallahul atheem". I'm not sure, but apparently in some cultures that translates to "Ok sisters, you may now take off your scarves".
I'm sure this may seem odd, but what's even funnier is when people do not anticipate the recitation of Qur'an at a social event, and are forced to be creative and use accessories such as a purse to cover one's hair. I was surprised to see a women hold her purse over her head as "Hijab"..as if the multitudes of men surrounding her are not a good enough reason to wear Hijab, but some guy reciting du'aa compels her to hold a purse over her head. Her friends were more creative...one friend used her dinner napkin. I was also laughing when I saw the communal Hijab -- two or more girls draped under one dinner napkin during the recitation of Qur'an. Her other friend was still more creative. She used her coffee saucer on the back of her head. I wasn't sure if it was Hijab or a Yamaka. I didn't know if she was a Muslim or a Jew. I felt like going up to her and saying "Shalom alaikum, sister".
And, people should remember that Hijab is not just a protection from guys, but from a girl's nafs (ego) as well. It should prevent girls from having to spend hours in front of the mirror doing her hair. But, unfortunately, you see girls in front of the mirror for hours doing their Hijab as they would do their hair, with all sorts of elaborate braids and the like. I wanted to go up to a sister and say "Is your Hijab naturally curly?" I also felt compelled to go up to another girl and say "Excuse me, but is your Hijab naturally that color, or did you dye it?".
Well, the point to remember is that some people make an effort to wear Hijab, but it is futile, because it is not fulfilling it's purpose. It's like using an umbrella with holes in it. Hijab is used for protection from guys as well as from the girl herself, and should not be used as an accessory or for beautifying one's self. Anyway, that's it. If anyone disagrees with me or is offended, then you are disagreeing with the teachings of Allah subhanahu wa Ta'ala.
Maybe wearing these types of scarves is an improvement in itself, for some women don't wear it at all. What I want to understand is why some Muslim women choose not to wear a headscarf. I seriously want to learn. I'm not trying to be mean here, I just want to hear from some sisters as to why they don't do it. Do you not find it to be an obligation? Are you 'not ready'? If you are 'not ready', then why? What holds you back? Please don't anyone take offense to any of this... I just really want to understand why.
Think of this as a rhetorical question. Allah has left us more days to live, more time to repent, more time to work. Daughter of Adam, you are nothing but a number of days. Each millisecond that passes is a millisecond closer to either heaven or hell.