Today, I decided to write about something our Ummah needs greatly. This 'something' is called, Hayaa'. Hayaa' literally means self shame, modesty or morality. The scholars have explained Hayaa' to be a condition within ourselves that prevents us from committing any action that Allah (swt) has prohibited us from doing. When a woman wears her hijab, it's an act of Hayaa'. The niqab is an even bigger branch of modesty.
It is really sad that nowadays, Muslim women and men mingle freely, and talk to each other about unimportant topics. Those of us who choose not to do that and have an increased amount of Hayaa' are made fun of, ignored, and labeled as 'unsocial' or 'hermits'. The right way for a woman to be properly modest is for her to only talk freely with Mahram men (men who a woman is not allowed to marry, i.e father, brother, uncle, grandpa). At the masjid, I find girls wearing makeup and laughing loudly; their voices very teenagerish and attractive. I see boys turning to look at them, their eyes blinking from the amount of accessories the girls wear. SubhanAllah! I sometimes feel really sorry for the boys in our Ummah. They fall into big amounts of Fitnah, and some girls add to it more.
A woman should not look a man in his eyes, chat him up, wear attractive clothing, or stare at him [let's rephrase that: look at him except if by accident].
And to our dear brothers out there, be satisfied with your mother, sister, wife, and daughters. The women out there are not to be looked at. Remember that Allah sees your every move, and that he judges you based on your actions.